Sexual problem, communication problem

It seems to be a questions section of The Guardian. It is an article where Pamela Stephenson Connely, a psychotherapist specialised in sexual disorders,  answers to a upset woman who tells her his boyfriend have an extremely avoidant sexual behavior; he has many problems with erection, he cannot have coitus and his sexual motivation is too low. As if that was not enough, that woman admit she is a “sexual” person; she enjoys sex and it is too important for her.

Psychotherapìst reccomend to her to seek psychosexual therapy. Pamela thinks they have a communication problem and therapeutic setting can be very useful to starting asking some important questions about that. For example: Why a “highly-sexual-motivated” girl has a relation with a  “lowly-sexual-motivated” boy? Then, while answers will be appearing during the therapy, therapist can reccomend to them  some exercises that would can help to find new ways of touching and contacting with each other and, also, each one would can learn how to understand better the signals from the other and, actually, how to communicate better how the other can satisfact the own desire. Finally, Pamela made a debatable gesture to the consultant: She tells her it’s OK to question themselves about the root of problem, but “a good therapist should you that”. People cannot be their own therapist?

You can check this article in http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/jan/12/boyfriend-feels-sex-is-improper